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  • AUGUST 13, 2025

    The two movie mom moments I didn’t understand (and actually judged)…until I became one

    Before I had kids, I was a great mom.

    You know, the kind who could watch a movie and confidently think:

    • That’s unrealistic.

    • She’s overreacting.

    • I would never.

    And if I’m being brutally honest? I didn’t just misunderstand those moments…

    I judged them.

    Fast-forward to now: two kids, a calendar full of color-coded chaos, and a caffeine intake that could alarm a small village.

    And guess what? I’ve officially eaten my words – with a side of Goldfish crackers stolen from my kid’s lunchbox. 

    Here are two standout movie mom moments that once made me roll my eyes…and now make me nod my head, maybe cry a little, and say “Same, girl. Same.”

    Sex and the City 2 – “Being a mother is not enough.”

    In the movie, 2/4 of our favorite gals sit in their hotel (room!) bar, sipping cosmopolitans, commiserating about the reality of motherhood. Charlotte (Kristin Davis) breaks down over her crying toddler and opens up to Miranda (Cynthia Nixon). 

    Miranda admits something that pre-mom me thought was awful: “Being a mother is not enough.”

    And (gasp!) – CHARLOTTE of all people actually agreed with her! She wanted kids. She fought for this life. But in that moment, she’s drowning in the exhaustion, frustration, and sheer relentlessness of parenting.

    I remember thinking:

    • How could she say that?

    • Isn’t motherhood supposed to be the most fulfilling role in the world?

    • If you wanted it, you should be grateful every second!

    But now?

    I get it.

    Motherhood is incredible, but it doesn’t replace you.

    It’s not supposed to be your only identity – and if it is, you eventually lose yourself. That line used to feel selfish to me. Now, it feels honest and healthy.

    And guess what? You can love your kids and your life while also acknowledging it’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done. Those two truths can live side by side.

    Bad Moms – “That’s so hot!”

    Amy (Mila Kunis) tells Carla (Kathryn Hahn) that she has a fantasy of eating breakfast by herself, and Carla – without missing a beat – groans and replies, “That’s so hot!”

    Pre-mom me? Confused.

    • It’s breakfast. Alone. How is that exciting?

    Post-mom me? Ohhh… it’s not about the pancakes. 

    It’s about eating a meal while it’s still fresh off the griddle. 

    It’s about drinking a hot latte before it turns into iced coffee by accident. 

    It’s about silence, autonomy, and the luxury of not cutting anyone’s food but your own.

    Now, I hear that line and practically salivate, too — not over the food, but over the peace.

    The Shift

    The difference between pre-mom me and now isn’t just understanding the moments – it’s having lived them.

    Motherhood changes your filter. 

    It softens you in some ways, sharpens you in others. 

    It humbles you. 

    It teaches you that judgment comes easy when you’re watching from the outside…but empathy only comes when you’ve walked into the scene yourself.

    So here’s to all the fictional moms I judged. I get you now. 

    And to the real-life moms reading this and living these scenes everyday? 

    I see you. 

    I honor you. 

    And…I’m right there with you.