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JULY 8, 2025
Balance is hard…unless you start with YOU
I went to hot yoga yesterday morning. And not to be dramatic, but I had a pretty cool life-changing realization.
Maybe I’m just a sucker for metaphors.
Anyway…the sweat, the stillness, the occasional ungraceful wobble – every minute of it mirrored what it’s like to be a busy mom trying to “hold it all together.”
There’s a part of class where we go into balancing poses. Some of us look solid. Some of us sway a little. Some of us quietly put our foot down, breathe, and try again. Some of us modify (hi!).
And I realized: This is motherhood. This is life.
We all play different roles.
Some days we’re in Warrior II – strong, grounded, ready to take on anything.
Other days we’re falling out of Standing Bow, frustrated that we can’t stay upright, even when we’re “doing everything right.”
And some days, Child’s Pose calls us – and we answer. Because we need to rest. To catch our breath. To collect ourselves without guilt.
There’s two things we’re told never to drop:
- Our breath
- Our focal point
In yoga, your breath is your anchor. It reminds you that you’re alive, in control, and capable – even if you’re shaking. And your focal point? That’s where your attention stays steady, no matter how off-kilter the rest of you feels.
When life gets chaotic, we try to keep our eyes locked on something.
Our kids.
Our careers.
Our partners.
Our to-do list.
But the truth?
The focal point has to be YOU.
Not in a selfish way – but in a survival way.
If you fall apart, everything you’re trying to hold together will follow.
You can’t balance if you don’t breathe.
You can’t balance if your eyes are always on everyone else.
And you definitely can’t balance if you never pause in Child’s Pose.
So here’s your gentle reminder – whether you’re holding a pose or holding a household:
• You’re allowed to sway.
• You’re allowed to fall.
• You’re allowed to take breaks.
• And you’re allowed to put yourself at the center – because that’s how the rest of it stands strong.
The next time you feel off balance, ask yourself: Where’s my breath? Where am I looking?
If the answer isn’t “me” – start there.
